Thursday, March 25, 2010

Once an Infertile...

...Always an infertile.

I had heard whispers in the newsroom for about a week now.

It shouldn't bother me anymore.

Why would I be upset?

I have 2 beautiful babies growing within me. I am so blessed and happy.

The walls we built around us while struggling took a long time to build, I don't know why I thought they would just fall down when we succeeded.

Someone is pregnant.

An intern.

I don't know what bothered me more...hearing that she wasn't trying and was shocked OR a supervisor pointing a finger my way and saying "You have to watch out, that's the fertile corner.".

Excuse me?

The "fertile" corner!?!

I don't think so.


  1. I still am shocked when I read FB posts that read "I'm pregnant" and the gal has only just taken the hpt an hour ago. That ship of nievity has sailed years ago. Hopefully, the intern has a good family situation and the child will be loved and cared for. I am so thrilled for your babies. Those babies will be so much more appreciated...

    I LOVE your most recent cake and the others you've done in the past. If you're okay with it, could you e-mail your recipe for chocolate cake? I've never found a die-for recipe. If you don't want to share, I understand:-)

  2. i don't think it'll ever make sense to anyone who hasn't gone through infertility

  3. It so cracks me up that people think I'm somehow superfertile! Um no, quite the opposite, thank you!

  4. Ugh! I always figured I would eventually get that too, since if I get & stay pregnant it will likely be through IVF which means a decent chance of twins. How funny, to look fertile to the outside world after all the struggles. Especially since, from the other side of it, I assume anyone with twins had fertility treatments. It's an obnoxious comment, and an obnoxious situation, but I hope you are mostly able to ignore the shenanigans and just enjoy your budding little ones!

  5. I have to confess that I've always felt like a bit of an intruder into the world of infertility because my problem has been staying pregnant, not getting pregnant. But even so now that we have 2 kids and have no plans of ever getting pregnant again, I still cringe when I hear an announcement like that :(

  6. Oh yes once you've ventured into the world of IF you never really leave. It amazes me how ignorant some people are though. I guess anyone who has never experienced anything to do with IF wouldnt think anything of making a comment like that...we know otherwise...

  7. Oh boy! I can relate. I still get "disgruntled" when I hear about people talking about fertility and everything else in between.

    My BF is "trying" and this is her second month of a BFN and she seems shocked about it. ?? really? why?? and further more she is posting her negative tests on FB. OMG, I cringe when I read that crap but I love her.

  8. Lots of people think twins mean FERTILE.

    If they only knew...

  9. *sigh* It still irks me when people talk about how easy it was for them to get pregnant.

  10. Yeah, pregnancy doesn't seem to be the miracle cure for the hurt feelings of infertility that I hoped it would be. It dulls the feelings a bit, but not enough that they don't sock you in the gut still. Luckily, most of my former co-workers were aware of the circumstances of my pregnancy, but for the ones who weren't, they all looked at twins as an indication to ask very personal questions about their origin, which I continually declined. One did make a similar comment about having some serious "luck" to end up with two, but I just left that comment hanging and shrugged my shoulders.

    Ugh. Yeah, the accidental pregnancies *still* make me a bit crazy. Sigh.

  11. oh yeah, just experienced another one of those stories this week. I do have a daughter but it was almost 3 years, lots of surgery, m/c and fertility treatment to have her. Now it's been two more m/c and several more failed treatments and still no #2 yet. All of which a lady at my DD's swim class knows. She announces to me that she just got a big shock - she's having twins (I was still reeling from the shock of telling people you are 'knocked up' at just before 6 wks pg - since I lose them in the 8th week most times, I wait a bit but still...). Anyway, I say wow that is a big surprise (it runs in her family) and she did not 'try' even - they were going to 'try' next month but 'we didn't make it'. Oh yeah and the husband had to get unfixed! I felt I put on a oscar worthy appearance. I'm just happy for you that things are going well and hope all good things for you - 'Miss Fertile'! Hee hee

  12. Once the label of infertility settles in, I don't think it ever goes away. It may become invisible to the rest of the world, but I know I'll always feel the weight.

    ~ICLW #31

  13. To be naive and innocent....

  14. I know the exact feeling! I have a coworker who is adopting and I am very excited for them, but I feel like it's ALL she talks about. Plus, now every person that comes into the office has to see the newest pictures, hear the latest about every tooth he has, the new haircut he got, etc. I realize that I shouldn't feel so horrible because I'm pregnant, but I can't help it.
    Wishing you the best with the twins!


  15. Lots of girls were pregnant the same time I was (at work), and for months I kept hearing how "it must be in the water". Yea, I just drank the water and three years later, poof! People are insanely ignorant - they have no idea.