A little background: My sister and her husband are trying to have a baby. All tests have pointed to male factor. Basically a zero sper.m count. ZERO. The doctors dug a little further and have found tes.ticular cancer. The good news? It's early, and they're monitoring it. The bad? For any shot of having a baby, it involves IVF and micro tese. And removal of the tes.ticle.
I had an awkward, kind of uncomfortable conversation with my sister today. I really don't know if I did the right thing, or if I came across the way I wanted to. What I do know is that I want to know what you would do....
After my sister's cycle was cancelled last month, she headed south, for a vacation. I can't blame her, she had already scheduled time off work for retrieval and transfer, so why not? She left town on the 9th and just returned yesterday. She mentioned that she talked to the RE's nurse today about their next step. We both share the same RE, and the staff knows we're sisters.
I'm very fortunate that my insurance covers a lot of my medicine costs. I was shocked at how much they cover, when I received my meds in June. I'm well aware that this is a very rare thing. When the nurse called me in August and asked if we could order "me" some extra foll.istim, I readily agreed. (Yes, I know this is somewhat questionable...but it's my sister and her husband has cancer and this might be their only shot, KWIM?)
Her last cycle was cancelled due to poor response. She's 28 years old and after stimming for over a week, only produced 2 follies in her left ovary. Nothing in the right.
The nurse told her that her next cycle will be a "flare" protocol. At this point in OUR conversation, my sister casually mentioned that the nurse said she should call me.
This is where it gets uncomfortable...
Sis says she still has 2 vials left from her cancelled cycle, so she'd have the nurse just order what else she would need. I told her I thought that was a good idea, but warned her that even a half order could be pricey. When she asked me how much, I was honest.
"Well, my receipt said a full order was $4,600 without my insurance."
"Oh, wow.", is what I finally heard her squeak out.
At this point, I started rambling about how I was sorry. Sorry that I can't do it again. Honestly I would do it every month if I could, but let's face it, I haven't even had my OWN cycle yet. I don't want to max out my insurance or raise any red flags, you know?
Am I being selfish? Am I doing the right thing?
I just worry.
What if my cycle fails? What if I do have a maximum amount of drugs allowed? Am I being selfish for not helping her?
I just wish that NONE of us had to go through any of this.
What do you think? What would you do?